What should I do in order to divorce my emotionally abusive husband?
Question Details: I've been married 15 years. My husband constantly accuses me of cheating I am not. He sleeps downstairs and I sleep upstairs. We barely communicate and I feel like I am walking on eggshells once I get home. We have a house together, the loan is under my name and I pay the mortgage and all utilities. I paid the car insurance until recently; he now has to pay it. I get scolded because he has to help me. My initial plan was to wait until my youngest turned 18 but that will be in 9 years and I cannot wait that long. What should I do? He threatens to take my kids and I am not an unfit parent.
You have an absolute right to divorce him, so the issue is, how do you best look after your and your children's rights. The best way to do that is to retain a family or matrimonial/divorce law attorney to help you. The lawyer can decide the best way to file for divorce (there are different grounds; you want to pick the one that is best for your situation); can make sure the filing/paperwork is done correctly; can make sure you get the best distibution of assets and/or support (if applicable) possible; can maximize your chance of child custody and help with child support; can file for any necessary "interim" orders that may be required, such as if your husband becomes physically threatening or withholds money from the family. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, there is no reason to keep living like this: meet with a lawyer next week and start the process. Good luck.