What can I do to stop my mentally ill wife from defaming me?
Question Details: We have been married for 7 years and have a 2 year old son together that stays with me and my parents. We recently separated in May of this year. She has a mental illness and has been in and out of the hospital since before we got married. Currently, she is in another hospital that allows her to make call and now she has not stopped defaming me. She calls friends, family, relatives etc. Recently, she involved the the police, accusing me of all sorts of things. Today 2 detectives came and visited my parents house asking questions because they couldn't believe all the things she was accusing me of. How can I stop her from continuing to make my life impossible? Would a restraining order help? I don't know where to start or what to do other than I do not want her to be arrested or sent to jail, I just want her to stop doing what she is currently doing and get the help she needs.
You have two different options. The first is in the family law courts and the second in the probate courts.
With the first option, you can file for divorce or a custody suit for your children. In either type of case, you can ask to be awarded sole custody of your children. You can also ask the judge to impose a restraining order which tells her to stop making the absurd statements. The judge can also order her into counseling. The limitation on this option is that people with mental health issues rarely understand that "orders" apply to them....and they just keep making the accusations despite the orders.
The second option might actually be a better fit in the long term. You can apply for full or limited guardianship over your Wife. This is done within the probate courts (as opposed to the family law courts). She does what she does because of her mental health issues. However, she signs her self out before the process can really help her be the person that she needs to be. If you can be named her guardian, then it would be dependent on you as to whether or not she can be released, thereby insuring that she continues with a treatment regime that will help her improve herself....and thereby avoid the mental health issues which contribute to the comments.